I wrote a blog about M.E and work way back in 2014 when I was in full-time employment Work blog. How times have changed! At the time, I couldn't be 100% truthful as to the full extent of my inability to do this library job as I didn't want to lose my job! I left that job due to 'working relationships' (read into that what you will) but with hindsight, I doubt I could have kept up full-time working for much longer, so leaving 2 years ago was a really good move for me.
So, now I am the proud owner of Words Angel (UPDATE -Business closed in Sept 2018 to concentrate on Stripy Lightbulb), a small business that does social media marketing and proofreading. Two things I can do from the comfort of my own home, and most importantly, to my own schedule. On average I work 20 hours per week but these hours are split into chunks across the week. For example, I might wake up early and do an hours' work between 6-7 am, rest for a bit and have breakfast, do another hour 9-10 am, take a rest break and do some mindfulness. I'll then fit another hour in before lunch. I'll rest for a couple of hours after lunch (usually watching the Ellen Show....she brightens my day). I might do an hour in the evening to finish off a
This type of working would not be possible if I was employed part-time to do the same amount of hours for another business. Inflexible set hours wouldn't work for me as working patterns tend to come in blocks of 3-4 hours. My weary M.E brain and body can't do fixed chunks like that. Work, rest, work, rest, work, rest, work is how I roll.
I was recently having coffee with a business friend, I was moaning about my lack of money and that my business is still building. He asked why I couldn't find myself a small part-time job to keep money coming in. I said to him that as much as I'd love that, it's just not possible. M.E fluctuates. I have no idea when I am going to be feeling so poorly I can't function. Our M.E bodies force us to cancel plans regularly, that includes having to take sick days when our symptoms have flared. I had so many warnings from Occupational Health about my level of sickness it became a constant stress that I didn't need.
2 years ago, I was terrified of admitting that I wasn't able to work full-time. I didn't want to be defined by my health. I still had hopes, ambitions, and drive. Unfortunately, I job hunted for 6 months initially without success. Despite being a postgraduate and having decades of experience, no one would employ me. So, I took my situation firmly into my own hands and became a sole trader with my own business. I remember reading a 'Building a business for Dummies' type book for hints and tips. On the first page, it said that if you weren't in the best of health you shouldn't bother trying to set up your own business as it takes hard graft and a lot of working hours per week (the book said 60+ hours). This is true. However, I have met a lot of disabled people who find self-employment is the only option. I don't want to build a huge digital marketing agency, I'm happy as long as I pay bills and have some disposable income. I'm constantly having to rein myself in as having M.E doesn't stop me being ambitious! However, 12 years into this M.E hell and I am learning to accept my limitations. I was beating myself up yesterday whilst chatting with a friend, she stopped me and said '...but you're DOING it!'. Yes - I am.
I'll never forget my former boss taking me into her office and saying 'I'm worried that you are living to work at the moment'. That was 6 months before I resigned, she was so right. I was resting all the time I wasn't at work to make sure I able do my job effectively. That's not a lifestyle worth having.
I wonder how many of Foggy's Followers are in a similar situation to the one I was in 2 years ago. I wouldn't be surprised to find it's a common problem for mild sufferers.
Love,
Sally xxx
and Foggy (OBVIOUSLY)
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